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 +===== A Grief Observed =====
 +**//​Reference//​**\\ ​
 +Lewis, C. S. (1961) A Grief Observed. Printed in the UK by CPI Bookmarque, Croyddon. First published in 1961 by Faber and Faber Limited, Bloomsbury House, London.
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 +p12 <fc green>​Compares love to Salt</​fc>​ "I suppose that if one were forbidden all salt one wouldn'​t notice it much more in any one food than in another."​
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 +<fc green>I really like this next quote - I think it is amazing and poignant, especially when we think of time and space and our bodies and our psyche, the one with the other...such a simple observation he makes that has such an importance I think:</​fc>​\\ ​
 +p14 "And how immensely improbable that it should be otherwise! ​ Time and space and body were the very things that brought us together; ..." <fc green>Cf p18</​fc>​
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 +<fc green>​Regarding death: </​fc>​\\ ​
 +p15 "You might as well say that birth doesn'​t matter."​
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 +p19 <fc green>​The grave</​fc>​
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 +p21 <fc green>​Time</​fc>​
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 +p29 <fc green>​Heaven and Hell</​fc>​
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 +p32 <fc green>​Feelings and/vs thoughts. ​ Also, rationally speaking, death is not something we should not expect. ​ Faith is tested.</​fc>​
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 +p35 "What is grief compared with physical pain?  Whatever fools may say, the body can suffer twenty times more than the mind." <fc green>I think only a sane person can say that...I don't know though. </fc>
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 +p36 <fc green>​Very interesting I think, the view of wanting someone back for selfish reasons, a restoration of my design, not for them.  His view on Lazarus being the first martyr then.  Being selfish. </fc>
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 +p37 <fc green>​2nd para...beautiful.</​fc>​
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 +p38 <fc green>​God a good God?</​fc>​
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 +pp39 <fc green>A brief respite in grief...moving forward, better memories. ​ If you seek the stream you will not find it, but if you move and do the right thing, you will one day wake to find yourself standing in the moving water. ​ Cf. p57</​fc>​
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 +pp41 <fc green>​Humour returns. ​ \\ Trying to understand grief again. ​ It was compared with fear, now with suspense. ​ Suspense in that there is a constant impulse, habit to fill what would normally happen with the other person who is now gone...and there is no way to replace them.\\ A beautiful description of what is a good wife :​)</​fc>​
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 +p42 <fc green>​Finding a reason for the death. ​ Interesting...I think sometimes there is no reason.</​fc>​
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 +p43 <fc green>​Bereavement,​ it is the other side of the coin to love.</​fc>​
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 +p44 <fc green>​Moving forward. </fc>
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 +p46 <fc green>​The guilt of moving on...as though we should remain in grief. ​ I'm not sure this is what he is saying but there is something of the fact that we don't want to move on because we may lose the person. ​ Also, we don't want to stay in pain but we cherish what the grief reminds us of...it is not the grief we want, but the reminder. ​ Here we should focus on the reminder, not that grief as the source of that.</​fc>​
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 +p49 <fc green>​Grief relapse....Prometheus. </fc>
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 +p50 <fc green>It is good to write I think....as he says.\\ pp. Sorrow is a process, a journey...like grief I think. ​ I like how he continues that it is not good - for him at least - to return to the happiness pre-wife, even though it is there to be seen.  The invite seems "​insipid"​ ...and so it is I think. ​ It would not be right to go there. ​ As he says, for then, the relationship was but an "​episode"​ in ones life, like going to the movies. ​ Rather, it is a part of ones life, life has changed for it...and so it should if it was meaningful.</​fc>​
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 +p55 <fc green>A lot of contemplation about God in the following pages...</​fc>​
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 +p59 <fc green>A return to the solace of God...and the ideal. ​ It is easily done though I think in the conception of Christianity where the challenge is removed. ​ However, what is not said is that the two may exist side by side I think - A love for God and a love for H.</​fc>​